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#65 – The Ten Action Signals: Inadequacy

By Thomas Mondel
October 9, 2013
3 Min read

8. Inadequacy

The feeling of unworthiness occurs anytime we feel we can’t do something we should be able to do. The challenge, of course is that often we have a completely unfair rule for determining whether we’re inadequate or not. First, understand the message inadequacy is giving you.

The Message: The message is that you don’t presently have a level of skill necessary for the task at hand. It’s telling you that you need more information, understanding, strategies, tools or confidence.

The Solution: Simply ask yourself, “Is this really an appropriate emotion for me to feel in this situation? Am I really inadequate, or do I have to change the way I’m perceiving things?” Maybe you’ve convinced yourself that in order to feel adequate, you have to go out on the dance floor and outdo Michael Jackson. This is probably an inappropriate perception. If you feeling is justified, the message of inadequacy is that you need to find a way to do something better than you’ve done it before. The solution ins this case is also obvious: Whenever you feel inadequate, appreciate the encouragement to improve. Remind yourself that you’re not “perfect”, and that you don’t need to be. With this realization, you can begin to feel adequate the moment you decide to commit yourself to CANI! – constant and never-ending improvement in this area. Find a role – model someone who’s effective in the area in which you feel inadequate – and get some coaching from them. Just the process of deciding to master this area of your life and making even the smallest amount of progress will turn a person who’s inadequate into a person who’s learning. This emotion is critical, because when someone feels inadequate, they tend to fall into the trap of learned helplessness, and they begin to see the problem as being a permanent one with themselves. There’s no greater lie you could tell yourself. You’re not inadequate. You may be untrained or unskilled in a particular area, but you’re not inadequate. The capability for greatness in anything is within you even now.

When we begin to feel that problems are permanent or pervasive or we have more things to deal with than we can possibly imagine, we tend to succumb to the emotions of Overwhelm.

For more on that topic check out Anthony Robbins’ book Awaken the Giant Within : How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny!

  1. Discomfort
  2. Fear
  3. Hurt
  4. Anger
  5. Frustration
  6. Disappointment
  7. Guilt
  8. Inadequacy
  9. Overwhelm
  10. Loneliness

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#129 – Fear, Abundance and My Inability to Connect the Dots

By Thomas Mondel
January 17, 2015
5 Min read
Fear, Abundance and My Inability to Connect the Dots

I believe that every human problem is caused by fear and thoughts based on a scarcity mindset. I found that abundance and fear cannot co-exist. Too often we are afraid. We are fearful most of the times. And we rob ourselves from the chance of experiencing an abundant and joyful life. In 2014 alone I was scared shitless multiple times. And I could not break out of it most of the times, making my...

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#64 – The Ten Action Signals: Guilt

By Thomas Mondel
October 9, 2013
3 Min read
The Ten Action Signals: Guilt

7. Guilt The emotions of guilt, regret and remorse are among the emotions human beings do most to avoid in life, and this is valuable. They are painful emotions for us to experience, but they, too, serve a valuable function, one which becomes apparent once we hear the message. The Message: Guilt tells you that you have violated one of your own highest standards, and that you must do something...

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#67 – The Ten Action Signals: Loneliness

By Thomas Mondel
October 9, 2013
2 Min read
The Ten Action Signals: Loneliness

10. Loneliness Anything that makes us feel alone, apart, or separate from others belongs in this category. Have you ever felt really lonely? I don’t think there’s anybody alive who hasn’t. The Message: The message of loneliness is that you need a connection with people. But what does the message mean? People often assume it means a sexual connection, or instant intimacy. Then...

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#17 – How Books Will Shape You Into A Successful Leader

By Thomas Mondel
August 3, 2013
3 Min read
How Books Will Shape You Into A Successful Leader

Reading good books is the most essential tool you can use for yourself to achieve anything in life. It is the cheapest and most efficient way to absorb knowledge that you can use to support yourself in any endeavour in your life. I actually believe that BECAUSE books are so cheap, people don’t see their true value. An awesome book can literally be like the “best of” of 50+ years...

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