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#62 – The Ten Action Signals: Disappointment

By Thomas Mondel
September 29, 2013
2 Min read

6. Disappointment

Disappointment can be a very destructive emotion if you don’t deal with it quickly. Disappointment is the devastating feeling of being “let down” or that you’re going to miss out on something forever. Anything that makes you feel sad or defeated as a result of expecting more than you get is disappointing.

The Message: The message of disappointment offers you is that an expectation you had – a goal you were really going for – is probably not going to happen, so it’s time to change your expectations to make them more appropriate for this situation and take action to set and achieve a new goal immediately. And that is the solution.

The Solution: Immediately figure out something you can learn from this situation that could help you in the future to achieve the very thing you were after in the first place. Set a new goal, something that will be even more inspiring, and something you can make immediate progress towards. Realize that you may be judging too soon. Often the things you’re disappointed about are only temporary challenges. You and I have to remember that God’s delays are not God’s denials. You may just be in what I call “lag time”. People often set themselves up for disappointment by having completely unrealistic expectations. If you go out today and plant a seed, you can’t go back tomorrow and expect to see a tree. A fourth major solutions to dealing with disappointment is to realize that a situation isn’t over yet, and develop more patience. Completely reevaluate what you truly want, and begin to develop an even more effective plan for achieving it. The most powerful antidote to the emotion of disappointment is cultivating an attitude of positive expectancy about what will happen in the future, regardless of what has occurred in the past.

The ultimate disappointment that we can experience is usually expressed as a emotions of Guilt.

For more on that topic check out Anthony Robbins’ book Awaken the Giant Within : How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny!

  1. Discomfort
  2. Fear
  3. Hurt
  4. Anger
  5. Frustration
  6. Disappointment
  7. Guilt
  8. Inadequacy
  9. Overwhelm
  10. Loneliness

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#55 – Do Not Depress Your Depression

By Thomas Mondel
September 16, 2013
4 Min read
Do Not Depress Your Depression

Society tells you that depression or panic attacks are some kind of illness and have to be treated with medication, but I don’t believe that. Depression is an emotion, and all emotions are simply signals from your body caused by your thoughts and interpretations of your surrounding world and life situation. They want to inform you that something is not right and try to guide you into the...

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#53 – Ask For Excellence

By Thomas Mondel
September 11, 2013
2 Min read
Ask For Excellence

Former Secretary of State Henry Kissinger asked an assistant to prepare an analysis. The assistant worked day and night on the report. An hour after he gave it to Kissinger, he got it back. There was a note attached that said to redo it. The assistant stayed up all night redoing the report. Again Kissinger asked him to redo it. After redoing the report three times, the assistant asked to see...

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#65 – The Ten Action Signals: Inadequacy

By Thomas Mondel
October 9, 2013
3 Min read
The Ten Action Signals: Inadequacy

8. Inadequacy The feeling of unworthiness occurs anytime we feel we can’t do something we should be able to do. The challenge, of course is that often we have a completely unfair rule for determining whether we’re inadequate or not. First, understand the message inadequacy is giving you. The Message: The message is that you don’t presently have a level of skill necessary for the...

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#139 – The Number One Reason Why Inaction Kills Your Business

By Thomas Mondel
July 13, 2015
3 Min read
The #1 Reason Why Inaction Kills Your Business

If you stop growing, you die. This is valid for everything in life and on this planet. This is valid for your personal progress and also for your relationship with the people around you. If you don’t train your body, it will get weak. If you don’t take care of your health, you get ill. If you don’t take care of your business, it will crumble. This is how life works. In order to...

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