Why are we complaining about stuff in the first place?
I don’t get it…
When we complain about anything in life we mostly don’t like the things the way they are at that very moment. We want them to be better because we judge them as being bad.
We know that it can be better because we have some kind of reference or experience that assures us that there is something out there that could improve our life. Something worth all the hard work.
Image it would rain every day. Each day you went out there were dark clouds and the rain would never stop. You know nothing else. Would you still complain about it not being a sunny day? You don’t know any sunny day, so you wouldn’t.
This is why I believe that you only complain about ANYTHING in life when you know that the current situation is not as good as you KNOW it could be.
It is that simple.
Could it be possible that deep inside you, you know that you are capable of doing more of something, or being better at something?
You know that you deserve a better job, maybe a raise or a relationship you feel fulfilled in. You know that. But you might not have it yet and now your emotions tell you that something is wrong.
These emotions are signals. They try to inform you to stop complaining and take precise action. Of course you cannot change the weather but you can always change your attitude towards it and maybe your view of that very situation changes as well.
But what can you do about it?
There are three steps to take to transform any “bad” situation into something you might also enjoy.
- Acceptance
- Enjoyment
- Enthusiasm
(I deeply recommend you reading Eckhart Tolle’s book A New Earth
or The Power of Now
if you have troubles with “accepting” and finally changing challenging situations in your life…)
Whenever you find yourself complaining about any situation in your life ask yourself if you could at least ACCEPT that this is the current situation. It might not be a pleasant one and you don’t have to like it. Just realize that this is what it is. Could you just accept it?
The answer is always yes.
If you still don’t want to accept it, accept the fact that you don’t want to accept it and work your way up!
“Go 24 hours without complaining (not even once). Then watch how your life starts changing!”
Once you stopped complaining about some specific thing in your life and accept an uncomfortable situation or scenario the magic happens. You generate space. In your mind and around you. When you have truly accepted something you don’t question it any more. Just as you don’t question gravity and be mad every day that you cannot fly. Although flying would be cool, this would be silly.
The acceptance allows you to bring enjoyment into your actions.
Whatever you resist persists and whenever you stop resisting an uncomfortable or undesired situation, it will resolve itself. This is when you can bring joy into your doing. Acceptance leads to enjoyment. And this enjoyment can inflict others.
When you have mastered the first two steps, every person you work with will feel your happy energy, your non-resistance and your enthusiasm.
Remember: Acceptance leads to enjoyment leads to enthusiasm leads to a whole bunch of happy people.
And you can be one of them.
