6. Disappointment Disappointment can be a very destructive emotion if you don’t deal with it quickly. Disappointment is the devastating feeling of being “let down” or that you’re going to miss out on something forever. Anything that makes you feel sad or defeated as a result of expecting more than you get is disappointing. The Message: The message of disappointment offers...
5. Frustration Frustration can come from many avenues. Any time we feel like we’re surrounded by roadblocks in our lives, where we are continuously putting out effort but not receiving rewards, we tend to feel the emotion of frustration. The Message: The message of frustration is an exciting signal. It means that your brain believes you could be doing better than you currently are...
4. Anger Angry emotions include everything from being mildly irritated to being angry, resentful, furious, or even enraged. The Message: The message of anger is that an important rule or standard that you hold for your life has been violated by someone else, or maybe even by you. When you get the message of anger, you need to understand that you can literally change this emotion in a moment. The...
3. Hurt If there’s any one emotion that seems to dominate human relationships, both personal and professional, it’s the emotions of hurt. Feelings of hurt are usually generated by a sense of loss. When people are hurt, they often lash out at others. We need to hear the real message hurt gives us. The Message: The message the hurt signal gives us is that we have an expectation that has...
2. Fear Fearful emotions include everything from low levels of concern and apprehension to intense worry, anxiety, fright, and even terror. Fear serves a purpose, and its message is simple. The Message: Fear is simply the anticipation that something that’s going to happen soon needs to be prepared for. In the words of the Boy Scout motto, “Be prepared.” We need either to prepare...
Just lately I stumbled once again upon one of Anthony Robbins’ book Awaken the Giant Within : How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny! I decided to re-read it and like every time I re-read a book there is something new in it, that fits my current life situation. It seems like you will always look and find what occupies your mind the most at...
I just stumbled upon a little test from the book The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz. Go and see for yourself how “big” your thinking is and if your thoughts are actually supporting you in achieve this big thinks you are set out to reach. In the left column below are listed several common situations. In the middle and right column are comparisons of how petty thinkers and...
Society tells you that depression or panic attacks are some kind of illness and have to be treated with medication, but I don’t believe that. Depression is an emotion, and all emotions are simply signals from your body caused by your thoughts and interpretations of your surrounding world and life situation. They want to inform you that something is not right and try to guide you into the...
Somebody once told me: “I challenge you to tell me who you are, without telling me what you do”. Challenge accepted… I believe that you are not your profession (“I am a teacher.”), not your past (“I have always been like that.”) and definitely not your future (“Soon I will be…”). I also doubt that you are any of the achievements you had...
Former Secretary of State Henry Kissinger asked an assistant to prepare an analysis. The assistant worked day and night on the report. An hour after he gave it to Kissinger, he got it back. There was a note attached that said to redo it. The assistant stayed up all night redoing the report. Again Kissinger asked him to redo it. After redoing the report three times, the assistant asked to see...
“I don’t like that man. I must get to know him better.” – Abraham Lincoln It was the first day after I gave up teaching in a classroom to become the high school student assistance coordinator. I asked the woman who was retiring from that job how she tolerated working with a principal who was extremely narrow-minded and negative in his approach to teachers. Her answer was...
One night while baby-sitting, a grandfather passed his granddaughter’s room and overheard her repeating the alphabet in an oddly reverent fashion. “What on earth are you up to?” he asked. “I’m saying my prayers,” explained the little girl. “But I can’t think of exactly the right words tonight, so I’m just saying all the letters. God will put...