Just lately I stumbled once again upon one of Anthony Robbins’ book Awaken the Giant Within : How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny! I decided to re-read it and like every time I re-read a book there is something new in it, that fits my current life situation. It seems like you will always look and find what occupies your mind the most at this very moment.
Every emotion can vary in its intensity but usually whenever you suppress or ignore one of them for too long they reach the next level. A slight discomfort can grow into bigger fear or anxiety. Anger can become frustration and so on. Watch your emotions carefully and try to handle them as soon as they arise by taking some action. They all have a CLEAR message in it. Each of your emotions wants to tell you something and guide you towards the necessary action to resolve it. Read on to see for yourself what each of these action signals (how Anthony Robbins calls them) are actually here for.
Uncomfortable emotions don’t have a tremendous amount of intensity, but they do bother us and create the nagging sensation that things are not quite right.
The Message: Boredom, impatience, unease, distress, or mild embarrassment are all sending you a message that something is not quite right. Maybe the way you’re perceiving things is off, or the actions you’re taking are not producing the results you want.
The Solution: Dealing with emotions of discomfort is simple: Change your state of mind. Clarify what you do want and refine your actions. Try a slightly different approach and see if you can immediately change the way you’re feeling about the situation and/or change the quality of results you’re producing. Like all emotions, if not dealt with, uncomfortable feelings will intensify. Discomfort is somewhat painful, but the anticipation of possible emotional pain is much more intense than the discomfort you might be feeling in the moment. You and I need to remember that our imagination can make things ten times more intense than anything we could ever experience in real life. In fact, there’s a saying in chess and in martial arts: “The threat of attack is greater than the attack itself.” When we begin to anticipate pain, especially intense levels of it, often we begin to develop the action signal of Fear.