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#62 – The Ten Action Signals: Disappointment

By Thomas Mondel
September 29, 2013
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6. Disappointment

Disappointment can be a very destructive emotion if you don’t deal with it quickly. Disappointment is the devastating feeling of being “let down” or that you’re going to miss out on something forever. Anything that makes you feel sad or defeated as a result of expecting more than you get is disappointing.

The Message: The message of disappointment offers you is that an expectation you had – a goal you were really going for – is probably not going to happen, so it’s time to change your expectations to make them more appropriate for this situation and take action to set and achieve a new goal immediately. And that is the solution.

The Solution: Immediately figure out something you can learn from this situation that could help you in the future to achieve the very thing you were after in the first place. Set a new goal, something that will be even more inspiring, and something you can make immediate progress towards. Realize that you may be judging too soon. Often the things you’re disappointed about are only temporary challenges. You and I have to remember that God’s delays are not God’s denials. You may just be in what I call “lag time”. People often set themselves up for disappointment by having completely unrealistic expectations. If you go out today and plant a seed, you can’t go back tomorrow and expect to see a tree. A fourth major solutions to dealing with disappointment is to realize that a situation isn’t over yet, and develop more patience. Completely reevaluate what you truly want, and begin to develop an even more effective plan for achieving it. The most powerful antidote to the emotion of disappointment is cultivating an attitude of positive expectancy about what will happen in the future, regardless of what has occurred in the past.

The ultimate disappointment that we can experience is usually expressed as a emotions of Guilt.

For more on that topic check out Anthony Robbins’ book Awaken the Giant Within : How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny!

  1. Discomfort
  2. Fear
  3. Hurt
  4. Anger
  5. Frustration
  6. Disappointment
  7. Guilt
  8. Inadequacy
  9. Overwhelm
  10. Loneliness

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#61 – The Ten Action Signals: Frustration

By Thomas Mondel
September 23, 2013
2 Min read
The Ten Action Signals: Frustration

5. Frustration Frustration can come from many avenues. Any time we feel like we’re surrounded by roadblocks in our lives, where we are continuously putting out effort but not receiving rewards, we tend to feel the emotion of frustration. The Message: The message of frustration is an exciting signal. It means that your brain believes you could be doing better than you currently are...

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#37 – How To Fight Your Fear So That It Never Returns Again

By Thomas Mondel
August 31, 2013
3 Min read
How To Fight Your Fear So That It Never Returns Again

Fear is something that everybody has to face sometimes in their lives. Whenever you start something new, whenever you start a new career, a new project, whenever you enter unknown territory there is usually fear involved. It is natural. But it can be controlled. Whenever you are fearful you imagine the future outcome of your planned action to be worse than the outcome of your non-action. The only...

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#70 – 13 Examples That Success Is Very “Quiet”

By Thomas Mondel
October 19, 2013
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13 Examples That Success Is Very "Quiet"

“People don’t understand they need to be poor for 1000 days. You’ll be doing worse than you were at your job for 1000 days after you start your muse business.” This is how long it takes to be successful… Overnight success is a myth. All the people see when they watch a successful person is the result of all this effort and action; years of consequent execution, mental power, and...

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#65 – The Ten Action Signals: Inadequacy

By Thomas Mondel
October 9, 2013
3 Min read
The Ten Action Signals: Inadequacy

8. Inadequacy The feeling of unworthiness occurs anytime we feel we can’t do something we should be able to do. The challenge, of course is that often we have a completely unfair rule for determining whether we’re inadequate or not. First, understand the message inadequacy is giving you. The Message: The message is that you don’t presently have a level of skill necessary for the...

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